Hi Friends,

Does this sound familiar?

The alarm rings; it's time to get up, but the bed feels too cosy. Just 10 more minutes, I tell myself. Fast forward, and I'm racing against time. In this race, however, the issue isn't the alarm but my personal negotiations. Let's unpack this intriguing productivity antagonist—self-negotiation.


The battle between what we should do and what we want to do is ongoing. Often, we find ourselves negotiating—sometimes compromising—with our own desires and responsibilities. But what if we took a stance of non-negotiation? What if you tell yourself, 'Shut up and do it' without any excuses or hesitation?

The Trap of Internal Bargaining: A Slippery Slope

At first, self-negotiation seems harmless. "Five more minutes of sleep" or "I'll start the task after one episode." Yet these innocent bargains snowball into major delays, making us perpetual catch-up players in our lives. Recognising this pattern is the first step in breaking free from it.

The Power of Decisiveness: No More "Maybe Later"

Decisiveness is a superpower. When we eradicate the space for negotiation, we free up mental energy otherwise spent in the to-and-fro of decision-making. By sticking to pre-decided plans, we cultivate a mental discipline that feeds productivity.

Building Trust with Yourself: The Integrity Connection

Every time you stick to your commitment, you're building self-trust. Conversely, every time you break that self-promise, your trust erodes. Over time, this trust becomes a bedrock of self-integrity and confidence, supercharging not just productivity but self-worth.

Non-Negotiation in Practice: Create Systems, Not Goals

It's one thing to understand non-negotiation and another to practice it. The key is to create systems. Instead of the goal "I want to read more," a system would be "I read 20 pages before bed." This specificity leaves no room for negotiation.

The Ripple Effect: From Tasks to Life Choices

While starting with daily tasks is beneficial, the art of non-negotiation has broader applications. From choosing healthier meals to standing firm in crucial life decisions, eliminating self-negotiation clears the path for more deliberate, intentional living. It allows individuals to prioritise their values and make choices that align with their true desires and goals.


At its core, ceasing to negotiate with oneself is about embracing a decisive, disciplined life. It's not about rigidity, but about understanding the immense freedom that arises from discipline. As you tread this journey, cherish the clarity and momentum it brings. Remember: productivity isn't about doing more but about meaningful, intentional action that aligns with your goals and values.


  1. Recognise and halt the patterns of self-negotiation.
  2. Embrace decisiveness in daily tasks and big life choices.
  3. Build systems that leave no room for internal bargaining.

Until next time,


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Last Update: October 08, 2023